Name: Kiran Gaind
Job / Title: Modern Parent Coach, Owner of The Connected Family
Company: The Connected Family: Raising Great Parents.
A boutique parent, work-life balance and leadership coaching practice based in Palo Alto. http://www.theconnectedfamily.net
Q: What have been the hallmarks of your success?
Kiran: The hallmarks of my success have been following my passions, being creative, stretching myself beyond my comfort zone and persevering until I reach my goals.
I started my own business with little experience as an entrepreneur and consistently, I have followed these guideposts to find my way and create greater success. I have become a sought after public speaker, am writing my first book, am known in my community for my work and keep going until I reach my goals. Being an entrepreneur is one of the greatest teachers in life.
The Connected Family is a boutique coaching practice helping very successful professional parents who may not feel as successful in their family lives. We help them to create quality connections with their family while having fulfilling careers.
Q: What does leadership mean to you?
Kiran: Leadership means to me knowing the people you lead, really getting them, responding to their needs, and inspiring others. When you create great relationships with those you lead, they are inspired by your sense of care and the intimacy you share. Trust is built and from trust anything performance related is possible. A great leader has vision and will stop at nothing to achieve her vision. She leverages talent, resources, strategy, project management, and powerful storytelling to get the job done. She connects well with people and with a larger sense of purpose to inspire others to work hard and achieve their dreams.
Q: What are the hallmark traits of a great leader that you have observed in your career?
Kiran: For me the best leaders in my career have been people who truly care about me and the work we do. They spend time connecting with the people they lead, being warm, personable and available. They inspired with vision, clarity, humor and strength. People follow them because they adore them and would do anything based on the great relationships they have.
Q: What advice would you give to someone looking to grow in her career while making time for her family?
Kiran: Stay connected at home so that you never deal with the distracting guilt that can get in the way of productivity at work. Have close connections with each member of your family, which can be maintained with 10 minutes of special time per day. Have close conversations with your children each night so you stay connected to what's really going on for them and you have peace with everyone who loves you. Have check in conversations everyday with your spouse. All it takes is 10 minutes to stay connected. Take good care of yourself physically, emotionally so that you have the energy for your personal and professional lives. Share the domestic work load with everyone in the family so that it is equally split in every possible way.
Q: What are ways that you have balanced career, personal, and other interests?
Kiran: I have learned and teach connected parenting which I practice daily. I prioritize my relationships and the health of those relationships as the cornerstone of my personal and professional success. In Connected Parenting, practicing Special Time looks like this: use a timer, set it for between 10-40 minutes, say “We’re going to do Special Time,” and then ask the child what THEY would like to do. Follow their lead, offer your full, undistracted warmth and attention, encouragement, noticing as they do what they want to do. This practice increases the sense of connection, wonder and availability you have for your child. Similarly, as leaders, we can be sure that we have one on ones with those we manage. Creating opportunities to connect one on one matters to the quality of relationships. Kiran gives talks in which she explains the brain science behind Special Time and why Connected Parenting works.
Q: Tell us something about yourself that is a fun fact.
Kiran: I taught salsa dance when I lived in San Francisco.
Q: What do you like to do to unwind?
Kiran: I like to meet up with friends and I like to walk in nature, especially near redwood trees.